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Consent and Communication

Updated: Sep 27, 2023

In a world where relationships come in many forms, whether personal or professional, consent and communication are always paramount. Consent signifies an agreement reached by individuals to willingly participate in a particular action or decision. Crucially, consent must be voluntary, informed, ongoing, and enthusiastic.

Voluntary

Consent cannot be coerced, manipulated or forced. All parties involved should feel free to express their feelings and boundaries without fear of repercussions.

Informed

To give valid consent, participants must have a clear understanding of what they are agreeing to. This requires open and honest communication about intentions, expectations, and potential outcomes.

Ongoing

Consent is not a one-time pass. It can be withdrawn at any time if a person feels uncomfortable, and communication must remain open before, during, and after any activity to allow for this.

Enthusiastic

Consent should come from a place of genuine enthusiasm, if someone is reluctant to agree do not go ahead with the activity.

As a Sex Worker, when discussing personal boundaries with romantic partners, co-workers, or clients, it's important to have a conversation about sexual health and condom use. If you are unsure about yours or your partners sexual health status, you should always use a condom, this includes oral, vaginal, and anal sex.


Its also important to express your personal boundaries clearly and concisely. Many avoid the conversation because they don't know how to initiate it, however, ensuring all parties are comfortable and consenting is so important.


"Tell me what turns you on the most.."


"Would you like it if I did ____ to you?"


"Does this feel good?"


"I would love to try ____ with you"


"Tell me one of your biggest fantasies.."


These are just a few examples of ways to initiate the consent discussion. It doesn't have to be awkward, in fact it can be sexy and playful.


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